The ABDL fetish, like all fetishes, is a passion that is not always easy to reconcile with everyday life. At various levels, it is sometimes necessary to take precautions to protect oneself and others.

Buying nappies, the first dilemma

Buying nappies can be a complicated decision. It's a psychological barrier to overcome, which raises a number of questions.

Where can I order? How can I ensure that my parcel is discreet? How do you store and hide the products? How do you dispose of used nappies?

It's important to keep things in perspective and stay down to earth: yes, you order ABDL nappies/products. And you don't necessarily want people to know that.

An online shop like Diaper-Minister will always strive to remain professional. Its aim is not to send you a "parcel of shame" with the word "nappies" visible to all on the box.

The parcels are therefore sent in discreet, neutral packaging. Unless the person opens the contents, it is strictly impossible to know what they contain.

If you're worried about someone intercepting your order, the simplest solution is to have it delivered to a relay point. This gives you time to get organised and prevents the parcel from being intercepted.

Waste storage and management

Where to store your ABDL nappies and accessories? Some of us are lucky enough to live alone or with people who accept fetishism. Others have to hide from their family, their parents or their partner.

It's important to choose a simple, accessible hiding place: a cellar, an attic, the back of a drawer or a cupboard. The underside of the bed is also a good place, often spacious and practical. For those with limited space, it's sometimes necessary to scatter items around a room or the whole house. Think about external solutions if you have them: a locker at work or university can be a good hiding place.

When disposing of nappies, look out for the household rubbish bin: someone could quickly find something they shouldn't "inadvertently". Sometimes it's safer to take your dirty nappy and put it in a public bin. And for pity's sake... Don't throw it out in the open!

You should also avoid leaving a nappy lying around for several days, especially if it has been used: the smell will give you away in no time.

Wearing nappies in public

Many people want to wear nappies at night as well as during the day, but live with the fear of being noticed.

The question can already be asked for the night.

It's best to wait until everyone has gone to bed to avoid someone surprising you in an inappropriate outfit. Locking your bedroom door can sometimes be problematic, as it can make you look even more suspicious. Don't forget that a nappy can be noisy, so it's a good idea to make sure that no-one is around, or is likely to hear any strange noises of plastic or fasteners.

Wearing nappies during the day poses another problem.

You need to have a great deal of self-confidence, and try it on in stages. Generally speaking, it's worth remembering that 99% of people won't notice a thing if you're wearing 'normal' clothes. Choose loose-fitting clothes (to feel more comfortable in the first place) to limit any 'strange' shape that might appear below the waist.

Noise and odours can also be a problem, depending on whether you're in a quiet, noisy, ventilated or enclosed area. These are all things to consider before taking the plunge. After that, you'll quickly realise that wearing a nappy in public is often a source of stress that doesn't need to be.

On the other hand, it's sometimes better not to show off either: if people fantasise about nappies, they should also respect the fact that others will be uncomfortable with this fetish.

To live happily, let's live hidden... A motto that applies perfectly to the ABDL community.